Hi everyone, I am Heather.
I’m honored that I was asked to guest write by Charlene who is a dear friend of mine. We met years ago, bonding over photography, then just life in general. She is one of those people that will inspire you & hug you at the same time. Everyone needs a Charlene in their life.
I am a blonde (bottle….shush lol), wife to a country hearted man, mom to a 3.5yr old boy whose energy level could power a small state, small business owner of a trucking company & Every Bit of Sunshine that specializes in high end newborn photography props, lover of peonies, knitting, Gilmore Girls & the colors mint & blush.
I recently started my blog “Creatively Honest” because writing has always been a stress reliever for me & I realized that the more vulnerable I let myself be the happier I was. I have spent a lot of my life keeping up appearances & when I stopped, the freedom was exactly what I had been needing. I thought maybe just maybe other women in similar situations would find comfort in knowing they are not alone. I have written a piece about my decision to homeschool my son. I hope you enjoy it!
I am getting ready to start the journey of homeschooling my son this fall with preschool. I get a lot of questions about why I would choose this right off the bat instead of giving public school a chance first.
People have a lot of curiosity about this when I mention it. I am reminded that it is still a bit of the road less traveled.
Some of the most common questions are: Is it because of the government? Due to the increase in school shootings over the last several years? Am I worried that he will not be socialized enough or if he will feel like he is missing out? Mom’s ask why I would choose to skip a few hours of free time each day? Some have looked at all the pans I have in the fire with the businesses we own & wonder do I want to make the time for school each day as well? If my patience will hold out lol?
Truth is, those are all such valid questions. These are all things I have asked myself.
Some days I do wonder if my patience will be on a short fuse. As a work from home Mom, kid free time daily does sound glorious when bedtime can’t come fast enough. But there are also so many memories I wouldn’t trade for the world & the joy outweighs the frustration by a long shot. As far as the pans in the fire…what’s one more? Are there going to be times that it seems much more complicated & overwhelming when it comes to planning curriculum? Yes totally!
I was in public school through 3rd grade growing up. It wasn’t an amazing experience for me but I don’t think that my son will get bullied like I did. At least I would hope not. I know that I cannot shelter him from mean kids & adults his entire life so that was not a deciding factor.
It is such a scary reality now for parents with how common school shootings are, but we run a similar risk being in most shopping areas or concerts as well. While it can be tempting to avoid places like that, you cannot live your life in fear.
I do worry that he will feel like he missed out, there are times that I did. The picture I had painted in my head of junior & high school were based on shows I’d seen like Saved By The Bell (yes I know I am showing my age lol) which made me feel like it would be fun. Judging from what my friends said, it was very different in real life.
However, my close friend growing up was like a second sister to me. I was fortunate that we socialized at her high school too. I went to prom, football games, etc. We do plan on making open enrollment with sports & extra curricular available to our son as well. There are so many opportunities for children to socialize with kids their own age that aren’t just at school.
Most people were shocked to learn I was homeschooled. As a child & teenager, I had no problem carrying on conversations with adults & kids my own age. At the time, I would hear “but you’re so normal!” from people that our family met on the road. There is such a stigma that you will be able to “spot” a homeschooled child based on how they interact with others. That doesn’t always have to be the case.
All things considered, when my husband & I talk about what we want for our family & I listen to my gut instinct, this is the right choice for us.
I was homeschooled from 4th grade through graduation. We had a unique circumstance that my Father’s work had him traveling full time from location to location. He did it for my entire childhood. When I was 9 years old, my parents made the decision for my Mother, sister & I to join my Father on the road. Drive in our family van from town to town, stay in hotel rooms, while homeschooling & see all North America. In the 10 years that we traveled we saw 48 states & most of Canada. My education was so much more hands-on than a classroom allows for. My Mother found something educational for us to tour in every town we visited.
Let me tell you I loved it & I miss all the towns that will have a special place in my heart. It is my dream to buy a 5th wheeler, pack up my family & travel the country again for months on end. We would keep our family home & business rooted in Iowa to come back to. In the coming years, it may be completely possible based on how our trucking company is growing. It has me planning, dreaming & pinteresting it up until I get the green light lol.
To me, the best thing about homeschooling is the freedom to have your days filled with adventure & exploring. Schooling takes up much less of the day when it is just one student & that leaves so much time to learn about the world around us. To cultivate hobbies & more hands-on projects. Whether it is on the road or helping Daddy in the shop, I love the idea that my son will have what my husband & I feel is the happiest life for us.
Like my parents always said as we traveled growing up, “we will keep doing this till it doesn’t work for us anymore” & it worked for 10 years. The beautiful thing about life is you reserve the ability to change the course anytime. When life starts heading in a direction that you don’t like, you take a deep breathe & bravely change it. Above all, choose what makes you & your loved ones happy. That’s all that matters in the end.
To read more from Heather and what it takes to be creative, head over to her blog Creatively honest! Where she shares all about being creative, being a mom, wife, and new homeschooling mama! I am so glad this lady is in my life, and it all started in a photography forum online. I am so glad to have found a kindred spirit who even states away “gets it” when ever we talk about something. I love you to pieces lady, thanks for taking time to write something for my new blog, <Super Hugs>
Cheers! Til next time 🙂